more info about self soothe and self regulate

Things our child can do to Self Soothe:

Talk about what makes them feel how they feel (sad, angry, etc)
Singing
Listening to soothing music
Playing an instrument
Taking a walk
Gardening

Some info on Self regulation in the internet:

Self-regulation skills take a long time to develop and are not fully in place until early adulthood. Therefore we need to have realistic expectations when it comes to working with the toddler and preschool population. Some recent research has also shown that self-regulation is ranked as the most important characteristic necessary for school readiness by kindergarten teachers and that there is evidence that early self-regulation levels have a stronger association with school readiness than IQ or  academic readiness.

Children do develop better self-regulatory skills as they get older, however, some children require more support in these coping skills than others. Children who grow up in loving, stable environments with predictable routines and structure are better at developing these skills than children who grow up in disadvantaged environments where they lack stability and routines and where their families are exposed to high levels of stress.

more info:

http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/self-regulation.html