When the world is filled with hatred, revenge, short minded instead of love, tolerance, empahty I wonder if there are anything around this world that are still pure and gentle..Only when I focus on people who shows kindness in their words and actions even in difficult experience, then I still believe in hope of humanity. Otherwise this world might seem to be dark and cold.
I pray for leaders in America and "terorist-Islamist based" group around the world. I pray for each individual that their minds and hearts are filled with loving kindness and forgiveness and one day not to far away, we are all going to embrace each other again like one big family, living and sharing this lovely beautiful earth.
What is the use of ego when there are something outthere that are much bigger?
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
more info about self soothe and self regulate
Things our child can do to Self Soothe:
Talk about what makes them feel how they feel (sad, angry, etc)
Singing
Listening to soothing music
Playing an instrument
Taking a walk
Gardening
Some info on Self regulation in the internet:
Self-regulation skills take a long time to develop and are not fully in place until early adulthood. Therefore we need to have realistic expectations when it comes to working with the toddler and preschool population. Some recent research has also shown that self-regulation is ranked as the most important characteristic necessary for school readiness by kindergarten teachers and that there is evidence that early self-regulation levels have a stronger association with school readiness than IQ or academic readiness.
Talk about what makes them feel how they feel (sad, angry, etc)
Singing
Listening to soothing music
Playing an instrument
Taking a walk
Gardening
Some info on Self regulation in the internet:
Self-regulation skills take a long time to develop and are not fully in place until early adulthood. Therefore we need to have realistic expectations when it comes to working with the toddler and preschool population. Some recent research has also shown that self-regulation is ranked as the most important characteristic necessary for school readiness by kindergarten teachers and that there is evidence that early self-regulation levels have a stronger association with school readiness than IQ or academic readiness.
Children do develop better self-regulatory skills as they get older, however, some children require more support in these coping skills than others. Children who grow up in loving, stable environments with predictable routines and structure are better at developing these skills than children who grow up in disadvantaged environments where they lack stability and routines and where their families are exposed to high levels of stress.
more info:
http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/self-regulation.html
Early Learning
Last night I went to early learning childhood education information session by Kathy Walker at Scotch College. This is the second time I have attended her talk and I always feel inspired after the event.
By the way, Scotch College, it always reminds me of my senior high school, Pelita Harapan. The orange brick, the nice to have facility.
Below are what I learnt last night:
Going to school for your child is about quality of journey. It’s not about finishing school with good grade and go to university doing preferred course.
In every state funded kindergarden, there is a preschool field officer who can give free assessment and written report whether your child is ready for prep/preschool.
In assessing school readiness, one assess emotional, social, speech, fine motor, self regulate, self sooth maturities. Academic is less concern in this stage. Then Kathy mentioned about a joke, same joke she mentioned last year about a 3 years old boy who show her how he can spell A to Z. When she asked him what are those letters for, he replied “I don’t know, but when I do this, it makes my mom very happy”
She reminded parents to use proper reasoning when persuading child to do something or maybe disctraction if that does not work. For example putting on seatbelt. I always struggle to put on seatbelt on Edward. Sometimes he just won’t sit still and play around. So I was reminded not to use reasoning such as “hurry put on seatbelt or police will catch you”. One day, when your child drives car by himself, you want him to follow speed limit for his own safety and other people safety and not because there is a speed camera nearby.
Do not ask question if you do not want your child to say no. For example do not ask “Do you want to have a shower now?” There will be a battle if you child say no. If you want your child to take shower. Instead say “In 5 minutes, mommy will help you to take shower”. Children thrive in predicted and respected environment.
Self sooth and self regulate for preschool children is one thing that I am not sure where to start. I still have question mark about this. Maybe I will google it to see what information are out there.
While listening to this talk, in few occasions I thought about how to create nurturing environment for Edward at home. Set up his play area (create, ABC, music, play) provide few clothes for him to pick himself. I have heaps of ideas in head. How to introduce ABC to him. I know he now can sing ABC song perfectly. Now I think is the time to introduce to him what they are for, recognising letters in his favourite books. I need to search for material in http://www.montessorimom.com/ later.
Last important tips from Kathy for parents are active reflection. When your child tells you that he is sad, with active reflection, you will say, I understand that you are sad because ****. Do not say “don’t feel sad”. Same thing with anger, jealousy, pain. Early on from their toodler years, it is okay to acknowledge these feelings and learn to overcome them in their own time. In these new age, many young people commits suicide because they do not know how to deal with their feelings. So with this last reminder Kathy ended the talk.
Thanks Kathy.
Check out Kathy’s website: http://earlylife.com.au/info/
By the way, Scotch College, it always reminds me of my senior high school, Pelita Harapan. The orange brick, the nice to have facility.
Below are what I learnt last night:
Going to school for your child is about quality of journey. It’s not about finishing school with good grade and go to university doing preferred course.
In every state funded kindergarden, there is a preschool field officer who can give free assessment and written report whether your child is ready for prep/preschool.
In assessing school readiness, one assess emotional, social, speech, fine motor, self regulate, self sooth maturities. Academic is less concern in this stage. Then Kathy mentioned about a joke, same joke she mentioned last year about a 3 years old boy who show her how he can spell A to Z. When she asked him what are those letters for, he replied “I don’t know, but when I do this, it makes my mom very happy”
She reminded parents to use proper reasoning when persuading child to do something or maybe disctraction if that does not work. For example putting on seatbelt. I always struggle to put on seatbelt on Edward. Sometimes he just won’t sit still and play around. So I was reminded not to use reasoning such as “hurry put on seatbelt or police will catch you”. One day, when your child drives car by himself, you want him to follow speed limit for his own safety and other people safety and not because there is a speed camera nearby.
Do not ask question if you do not want your child to say no. For example do not ask “Do you want to have a shower now?” There will be a battle if you child say no. If you want your child to take shower. Instead say “In 5 minutes, mommy will help you to take shower”. Children thrive in predicted and respected environment.
Self sooth and self regulate for preschool children is one thing that I am not sure where to start. I still have question mark about this. Maybe I will google it to see what information are out there.
While listening to this talk, in few occasions I thought about how to create nurturing environment for Edward at home. Set up his play area (create, ABC, music, play) provide few clothes for him to pick himself. I have heaps of ideas in head. How to introduce ABC to him. I know he now can sing ABC song perfectly. Now I think is the time to introduce to him what they are for, recognising letters in his favourite books. I need to search for material in http://www.montessorimom.com/ later.
Last important tips from Kathy for parents are active reflection. When your child tells you that he is sad, with active reflection, you will say, I understand that you are sad because ****. Do not say “don’t feel sad”. Same thing with anger, jealousy, pain. Early on from their toodler years, it is okay to acknowledge these feelings and learn to overcome them in their own time. In these new age, many young people commits suicide because they do not know how to deal with their feelings. So with this last reminder Kathy ended the talk.
Thanks Kathy.
Check out Kathy’s website: http://earlylife.com.au/info/
Friday, March 11, 2011
japan 11 march
japan is a home that i have ever been home to... i feel sick watching and thinking about the destruction that eartquake and tsunami caused...i hope people who survives and affacted stay strong...my thoughts are with people/children who lost their lives in this tragedy.
Sunday, March 6, 2011
lovely weekend
On Saturday, for the first time, we took Edward to Melbourne Zoo. We decided not to bring pram, which maybe a bit risky, but it's a good decision I think.
There are lots of shady area in Melbourne zoo which is great when the weather is hot and sunny. There are lots of traditional building too following the origin place of the animals. It's a lovely zoo. Edward was so excited when he saw the animals. At the end of the zoo trip, I asked him " what is your favourite animal in the zoo?" Edward replied " tiger" ^^
Edward was exhausted by the end of the day, he walked around the zoo with us most of times.. only in the last hour he asked daddy to give him a ride. He must be tired that boy.
From the zoo trip, we met Ason and his baby brother. Edward seemed to recharge his power on the way. Aston and Edward had a good run around footy field. Mommy was a bit worried Edward will be too tired. He came back, coughing non stop and asked for water to drink. After few minutes sitting down, he's fine again and went running again with Aston.
We then had dinner at Melbourne Kebab Station. There were so many people waiting to order, and majority have tattoos all over their body..interesting place to eat. The food is yummy but the place is a bit too small. We'll come back again one day, but maybe take away next time.
Till next time..
There are lots of shady area in Melbourne zoo which is great when the weather is hot and sunny. There are lots of traditional building too following the origin place of the animals. It's a lovely zoo. Edward was so excited when he saw the animals. At the end of the zoo trip, I asked him " what is your favourite animal in the zoo?" Edward replied " tiger" ^^
Edward was exhausted by the end of the day, he walked around the zoo with us most of times.. only in the last hour he asked daddy to give him a ride. He must be tired that boy.
From the zoo trip, we met Ason and his baby brother. Edward seemed to recharge his power on the way. Aston and Edward had a good run around footy field. Mommy was a bit worried Edward will be too tired. He came back, coughing non stop and asked for water to drink. After few minutes sitting down, he's fine again and went running again with Aston.
We then had dinner at Melbourne Kebab Station. There were so many people waiting to order, and majority have tattoos all over their body..interesting place to eat. The food is yummy but the place is a bit too small. We'll come back again one day, but maybe take away next time.
Till next time..
Monday, February 7, 2011
Summer 2011
We are now in February. Christmas and new year seem so far away now. My goal this year is to have somekind of vegie garden in the backyard, learn how to sew, create and mantain a comfortable home, be generous and helpful to everybody, and always be grateful for friends around my life.
Last night is the first time I made a playdough for Edward. I was a bit worried at first because it was very glueee but after adding some flour and some kneading, it turned out ok. I am very happy wih the result. Next time i will make a red one. Thia time it's blue. Cant wait to play playdough wih him tonight.
Last night is the first time I made a playdough for Edward. I was a bit worried at first because it was very glueee but after adding some flour and some kneading, it turned out ok. I am very happy wih the result. Next time i will make a red one. Thia time it's blue. Cant wait to play playdough wih him tonight.
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